REAL Older Women Are Rare
God wants older men and women to be examples and help the younger grow in their walk with Him. REAL Older women are to be "reverent in behavior" which, of course, is seen on the outside. Outward conduct, clothing, actions and speech fit behavior becoming a godly woman, which can only be present and real when driven from an inward desire for holiness (being set apart to God).
Additionally, they are "not a slanderer". She is not sowing discord, falsely accusing or speaking badly of people. When you slander, you do the devil's work, because he is the ultimate slanderer. Instead, God wants the fruit of the Spirit - love, joy, peach, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control to be evident in her life.
Self-control is a key element related to "not given to much wine". Excess drinking creates such a bad example for young women and is unfit for "teachers of good things". Jesus does not want women or men to be under the influence of anything but HIM.
Of course, this is not only about alcohol consumption, it is about self-control. And, remember, how do we get "self-control"?
It is part of the fruit of the Spirit.
"Self" will do a poor job controlling itself, because everything is about ME according to "self!"
Walking with the Lord, abiding with Him and allowing the energy of the Holy Spirit to blossom in our life is the only way that "self" is controlled. This is a theme of Titus 2:1-8 and is critical for older women.
Finally, REAL older women are "teachers of good things". Everything God asks a younger women to do is what an experienced, Godly woman knows and teaches - loving your husband, loving your children, being discreet, being pure, being good, being a homemaker and being subject to her husband.
Instead of teaching those things, too many mature women settle for the opposite example in those areas. Is your maturity in the Lord a primary source of knowledge for younger women?
What does loving her husband involve? How might her lifestyle be interfering with loving her children? What is the big deal about being discreet and what is it? What about being pure and good - how can that help? Why homemaking when a career is available? How is she to be subject to her husband, especially if he is treating her poorly?
Older women have a tremendous opportunity to glorify the Lord by studying what He wants of a woman and sharing that with the next generations.
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