Painful Problem for Every Woman

The painful problem for women is primarily unknown. This problem for women isn't a secret, and it's not hidden, but men and women don't know about it. It is part of God's curses or judgments on mankind after Adam and Eve sinned. 

Even worse, people do not understand that it impacts their life RIGHT NOW. This isn't something that just happened to Adam and Eve. These curses affect ALL men and ALL women. That means each day of their life; they don't understand the underlying foundation of their frustrations. 

God also declared a JUDGMENT for men, so God was equally just with Adam and Eve and all men and women. Click here to read about the "Painful Problem for Men."

Painful Problem for Every Woman

To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; in pain you shall bring forth children; your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you." -- Genesis 3:16

When women understand the curse in Genesis 3:16, they often state that it represents their life! That is true because it is one part of the consequence of the sin of Adam and Eve that has been passed along to all women.

Let me briefly explain how the "painful problem for women" is detailed in God's Word.

The Theme

Read Genesis 3:16 above and note

  • the first two phrases are about children
  • the following two phrases are about the husband. 

The clear theme of that verse is about relationships, particularly in the family.

A simple paraphrase could be, "Your relationships with your children and your husband will be painful and unfulfilling."

Some women say, "That's awful!"

Yes, it is. Why? It's a consequence of sin! You will understand how much worse it is when seeing the connection between the judgment and the woman's design. Check out course 02A - God's Design for Excellent Relationships to understand woman's design and see the critical connection. 

Three Elements

First, it will be painful to have and raise children. The pain is not only in the conception, but the implication is that it will continue through their life.

Second, the desire for the husband creates a problem. There are two basic interpretations of "desire." One view is the wife craves a relationship with her husband so much that she would do anything.

Others state that it is a matter of the wife wanting to control the husband. Without getting into the details, the second view fits the word usage best, but it doesn't matter. Why? The first view will likely result in manipulation, the wife is working stealthily to get her way, and the second view results in domination.

Whether manipulating or dominating, the result is control, one of the critical issues creating the painful problem for women.

Third, the husband participates in the woman's judgment "...and he will rule over you."

Again, two views are held. First, this is just a re-establishment of man as the authority. Second, a man will abuse his authority and mistreat his wife.

Both have merit, but the second fits the context better because it is a judgment, and the word "rule" implies harshness.

So, women have a judgment on them, stating that not only will they have pain with their children, they will have pain in their relationship with their husbands. They create some of the pain, and the husband initiates some.


The painful problem for women is ugly news. Additionally, it is easy to recognize the reality of it in life. While the judgment focuses on family relationships, it broadly applies to all women's relationships. The judgment creates a path of least resistance to relationship problems, which hurts a woman at her very core.

The good news, God has the perfect solution. He always provides a way out, and the answer lies in following His prescription and the design of a woman.

Take some time to look at the man's judgment. Click here to see the "Painful Problem for Men.". Again, it is unknown and yet impacts every man in the world!

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