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Freedom Is Great – But Not Best!

Freedom is great! It is one of the highest and dearest principles for relationships. It is also similar to or the same as grace. Yet, it is not the most important element for superior relationships. If freedom is not placed below at least one other principle, relationships will suffer from irresponsible freedom.

Freedom is Great

For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. – Galatians 5:13

Gravity and the Bernouli Principle

Freedom is like gravity. What? Okay, it is just an analogy, but freedom, like gravity, is subject to at least one higher principle. For example, heavy planes can fly. How is it that those giant passenger and cargo planes can fly when some of the biggest ones weigh more than 600 tons?

That must mean that gravity isn't real, because those heavy planes can fly! Or, how is it that birds fly when gravity is real? There is a higher principle or law, Bernoulli’s principle, that you can call a "higher principle." The wings of the planes and birds create are an airfoil that creates a lift force when energy is applied to the airfoil.

Bernoulli's Principle can be used to calculate the lift force on an airfoil if you know the behavior of the fluid flow in the vicinity of the foil. For example, if the air flowing past the top surface of an aircraft wing is moving faster than the air flowing past the bottom surface then Bernoulli's principle implies that the pressure on the surfaces of the wing will be lower above than below. This pressure difference results in an upwards lift force. Whenever the distribution of speed past the top and bottom surfaces of a wing is known, the lift forces can be calculated (to a good approximation) using Bernoulli's equations – established by Bernoulli over a century before the first man-made wings were used for the purpose of flight. – Wikipedia; Bernoulli’s Principle, Real-world application

Freedom and Love

Why is that important to know? Because Love is to freedom like the Bernoulli Principle is to gravity.

Your freedom is subject to the highest principle – LOVE, especially when other people are involved. Love – “pursues the best for others; patiently, kindly, sacrificially, and unconditionally”.

When talking about this with a friend, she said, “Love trumps freedom.” What a great, simple statement to remember. Love does trump freedom – love is not only more important than freedom, it promises, promotes, and provides the responsible use of freedom.

Love subjects freedom to a higher standard which actually may limit your freedom. Love sets and respects boundaries while freedom without love (irresponsible freedom) will ignore boundaries. When your ME is flashing, that is not love. Love does not focus on ME nor does it judge or complain about people, especially those near to you. Love does not try to get others to help you change them. Love never manipulates or dominates others to make you feel better. Instead, love accepts the freedom of others to relate to you or not. Love is focused on others - pursuing their best; patiently, kindly, sacrificially and unconditionally.

For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. – Galatians 5:13

Love Sets Boundaries and Respects Boundaries

Love sets boundaries and respects other’s boundaries. Love also creates consequences for crossing boundaries AND, at the same time, accepts that others are free to cross them. They are free to cross and free to experience the consequence.

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    ​Is your child free to not clean their room? Yes, they are free to obey or disobey. But if a clean room is a house rule, that is a boundary with probable consequences.
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    ​Is your friend free to curse at you? Yes. You may not like it but it is their issue. But you are free to associate with them or not.
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    ​Is a person free to rob you? Yes, it is their choice to be evil or not. But you may protect yourself, your property and seek justice.
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    Is a husband free to not love his wife as God told him to? Yes. His wife may not like it, but it is his issue.
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    Is a wife free to not respect husband as God told her to? Yes. Her husband may not like it, but it is her issue.

That may appear to be condoning bad behavior. Not true! That is reality. When reality is ignored, actions will be fueled by opinion, subjectivity and selfishness.

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