Do you want to enhance your relationship? Consider some books for couples to read together; it is much less expensive than counseling. Hopefully, you desire deep love and companionship with your spouse or partner. If all couples had that desire, it would reduce the rampant relationship and family pain.
Unfortunately, many couples find themselves at a crossroads, questioning the essence of their relationship or looking to restore it. In contrast, others seek to grow even deeper love and connection with one another. Counseling is a popular option for both types of couples. But another way couples can easily and cost-effectively strengthen their bond is by reading together, utilizing both the wisdom and fun books have to offer. If you want to deepen your understanding of each other and fortify your relationship or marriage, here are some great books for couples to read together.
Why Books for Couples Matter in Relationships
Reading is fun for many, but that may not be you. Nevertheless, books offer a unique way to explore complex emotions, situations, and philosophies that can enrich your relationship and life. Reading books for couples provides an excellent activity to do together and valuable insights into a host of relationship issues and concepts you can explore together.
A particular vulnerability and intimacy comes with reading aloud to your partner or giving them your full attention as you listen. There’s also a connection with the shared experience of diving into the same narratives or wrestling with the same concepts together, providing you with plenty of new things to talk about as a couple later—whether read aloud together or separately in your own time.
Using Books as Tools for Healing
Books can also serve as excellent healing and understanding tools, especially during rough patches. They offer different perspectives and solutions you might have yet to consider and can guide you through wise conflict resolution and intimacy. As Proverbs 4:7 says, “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom, and whatever you get, get insight."
God’s Word is the ultimate book for couples to read together for wisdom, healing, conflict resolution, and intimacy with each other and God. Many Christian authors can also offer valuable insight on topics that can help you see God's Word from another perspective.
In all things, before you sit down to read together as a couple, ask God for the wisdom and connection you seek. As James 1:5 says, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him."
Top Christian Books for Couples to Read Together
Books for Couples on Love Languages
Understanding each other's love languages can be a game-changer in relationships. Books like "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman can offer valuable insights into learning how your partner best expresses love, receives love, communicates needs, and feels most valued and safe in the relationship.
Books for Couples on Financial Planning
Money can be a significant stressor in relationships when managed poorly. Books like "Smart Couples Finish Rich" by David Bach and "The Treasure Principle" by Randy Alcorn can help you navigate the financial aspects of your relationship. Randy Alcorn's book has outstanding principles that help you see life from God's perspective. Both books will help you operate as a team in all things.
Books for Couples on Spiritual Growth
For couples looking to grow spiritually together, "The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God" by Timothy Keller offers a profound look into the spiritual dimensions of marriage through a biblical lens.
Of course, God, the original Author of love and marriage, is the best source to help you grow closer in your relationship. Read the Song of Solomon and Proverbs to apply what God tells you in those outstanding books.
Books for Couples on Parenting
Family life and the challenges of introducing children can often make it difficult to ensure your relationship with your spouse remains a priority and learn how to navigate family as a team. If you're planning to start a family or are already parents, books like "Parenting with Love and Logic" can be incredibly helpful.
Books for Couples on Intimacy
Books that focus on improving intimacy can help you understand each other's emotional and sexual needs better. “The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended” by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky can be an excellent resource on how to satisfy intimacy needs of both partners in a marriage as God designed.
Books for Couples and Small Groups
Of course, we want you to read the GR8 Relationships series. Each book is a standalone read and adds to the others in the series.
- Book 1: How Did This Happen to Me? Examine how to use feelings, freedom, forgiveness, and confession in ways that are constructive and life-giving.
- Book 2: Did You Choose the Right Path? Examine how we can properly make those difficult life decisions. The question we must ask ourselves is, “Where was God in this process?”
- Book 3: Made In God's Image, Really? Examine the design of men and women and how each design reflects God’s image. From the beginning, our purpose was to reflect Christ in all we say and do.
- Book 4: What Happened to Us? Examine God’s perfect design for relationships, how God uniquely designed men and women, and the role of men and women in relationships.
- Book 5: What Damages Relationships? Examine how to understand the battle between designs and judgments in our relationships and how it contrasts with God’s perfect solution for healthy and fulfilling relationships.
- Book 6: Coming Soon
- Book 7: The Problem That Destroys Relationships. Examine God’s perfect design for healthy relationships and how we can change our behaviors from selfish to selfless to glorify God and strengthen our relationships.
- Book 8: Coming Soon
Why Not Pick A Book Up Today?
Reading a book together as a couple can be a transformative experience that enriches your knowledge and strengthens your emotional and spiritual bonds with God and each other. So, why not pick up one of the books for couples listed above and enjoy your journey towards mutual growth and understanding? Remember, any book can be a good book for couples to read together if both are interested in it! The goal is to experience intimacy and connection; little can make you feel more bonded with your partner than reading a book as a couple.