REAL Women Are TOUGH! | GR8 Relationships


Titus chapter 2 verses 1 and 3-5 clearly states that REAL women are TOUGH - Tender Open-hearted Ultimate Godlike Helpers (TOUGH). REAL women are TOUGH and are as rare as REAL men.

REAL women are - 

  • Loving
  • Virtuous
  • Submissive

...the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. - Titus 2:4-5


While God's design of a woman is about relating and relationships, she still needs teaching from older women about how to love their husband and their children. This love is not the same unconditional, sacrificial love God wants from a husband to his wife (agapao)! It is a friend or companion love (philos).

Of course, God asks for an unconditional love from all of us, even toward our enemies, but for some reason His directions for the love of a wife to her husband is not the same as the husband to the wife.

My speculation is each love fits their designs - unconditional love is a major challenge for a man. And, testosterone is built to take on challenges, especially the challenge to love his wife as Christ loves the church - provide, protect and preserve her. For a woman, her estrogen-progesterone naturally belong and relate, so God asks her to live in her design and love through her belonging nature.

Virtuous (Discreet, pure, Good)

Discreet - Love is essential and, so is discretion, purity and goodness. REAL women are TOUGH, because they are discreet, not gossipers. Discretion "curbs one's desires and impulses to be sound in conduct and speech".

The focus is on right thinking, not impulsive thinking. Discretion does not slander or malign, manipulate or dominate. And, it serves others not self. That shows that a woman is TOUGH!

Pure - Purity is about clean, chaste, modest, and immaculate - as opposed to polluted. A woman defiles her beauty by poor choices and lack of discretion. This is where a husband is asked to help by "purifying" his wife through the Word of God as well as helping her develop into what God wants her to be.

Good - Good is a pleasant, agreeable, kind, upright, and honorable attitude. It is what God said of Dorcas in Acts 9:36 "...full of good works and charitable deeds..."

REAL women are TOUGH when they are cheerful in spirit rather than sullen, bitter, quarrelsome, and fretting. That is only possible through the indwelling work of the Holy Spirit. It is easily the last thought when kids are crying, husband is not helping, and things are not going well.


Finally, REAL women are TOUGH, because they know the beauty and glory of submission. Yes, submission is not a "politically correct" word to use when talking about women. In fact, submission is a completely undesirable attribute by the world, but God values it immensely! That means a wise Christian also values it.

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While this passage in Titus speaks to women, the principle of submission also applies to men. If a man does not understand the principle and character of submission, it is foolish to talk about submission with his wife. If he does, he will likely be create an opportunity for sin in his own life.

God asks a woman to be a homemaker and "subject to her husband". Culture does not support this as God speaks of it, but culture is not the standard - God is. 

REAL women are TOUGH and know some critical information about submission - no one can make you submit. Submission is an inner voluntary act of the will. It is something that glorifies God, because submission to the husband is "as unto the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22).

Husbands that try to make their wife submit not only hurt their relationship with their wife, but also with God. Submission is the wife's choice, not the husband's. The greatest example in God's Word about a godly wife is Proverbs 31. And, it is critical to note that all she does is for the benefit of the home, not a career or standard of living to which she or the family aspires.

So, REAL women are T.O.U.G.H. - they are Tender Open-hearted Ultimate Godlike Helpers.

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