The PROBLEM (making everything about ME - yourself) blossoms into at least 4 relationship destroying mistakes. Each mistake is a form of control that hurts the relationship. Mistake #4 is the DICTATOR where you "Try to Change Them." You see yourself as the Jr. Holy Spirit as you relate to other people in your life. You are the one that knows what is best for everyone else. While you may have good intent, you are still a good person up to no good. You tend to only be happy when others are doing what you want which leaves you sad or angry when they don't do what you want.