Your freedom has two common obstacles that are often hard to see and understand. Both are part of everyday relationships. The first obstacle shows up when you turn good things into obligations. A past promise or a goal you made can become an obligation. When you do that, you change a “want to” into a “have …
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Can you change if you are a control person? Yes. There are freedom tools for control people to help them and their relationships. You can stop trying to get everyone to live the way you want. You can lighten your own burden and remove the load you have placed on those around you. It only happens …
Practicing freedom and control is seldom easy, but it becomes easier once you see the benefits. Part of the difficulty is control people are often “good people up to no good.” I could be the poster child for the control person disease. It created severe damage in all my relationships. Control is a tough issue …
Now that you have reinforced your freedom, you have another, probably more difficult, question to answer. Do you accept freedom for others and God? Do you accept that people and God are free to act however they want? Of course, there are clear examples and great reasons to limit other’s freedom that will be discussed later. …
Whenever you feel obligated, you limit your choices. If you pay attention to what you say, you will start noticing your use of three words – should, ought, and must. Those words are an excellent sign that you are turning even good commitments into obligations. For example, your marriage vows are a commitment. Are they …
When responsible with your freedom, you see others as having their own choices. It does not mean you like or even put up with those choices, but you know the reality is they can choose whatever they want. And, whatever their choice, good or bad, it does not drive you to try to make them …
As simple as it sounds, freedom used correctly is a radically different way to live. Unless you accept the reality of freedom and choice, you will usually react to and be controlled by situations like a mouse to cheese. And, just as important, you forget that other people have choices too. When you forget or …
Sharing the truth with another person who needs to hear it is scary for most people. If you have a structure to follow, it will help immensely. The structure we propose is from the Moment of Truth, created by Robert Fritz and Bruce Bodaken, and is part of our GR8 Leaders curriculum. Use these four steps …
