When you make the Dictator mistake you think that they need to change. You may blatantly try to make others do things your way, or you are a "good person up to no good." The second approach is seldom seen as bad, because you believe that if you are not the "Jr. Holy Spirit" in their life, they will never change or, much worse they "will die lonely and sad," if you are not diligent in pointing out their bad behavior.