The PROBLEM (making everything about ME - yourself) blossoms into at least 4 relationship destroying mistakes. Each mistake is a form of control that hurts the relationship. Mistake #2 is the VICTIM where you "Keep the Past in the Present." Even though the past is OVER, people become controlled by the past, because they keep dragging what has been done to them or they did to others, into today - the present. Without the God-given tool of forgiveness, the wrongs others have done to you will control you with a desire for justice or vengeance. And, without God's solution of confession, the wrongs you do to others drives you to rationalize your behavior. Are you keeping the past in the present?