The PROBLEM (making everything about ME - yourself) blossoms into at least 4 relationship destroying mistakes. Each mistake is a form of control that hurts the relationship. Mistake #3 is the ACTOR where you "Wear a Mask." You wear the mask for a variety of reasons and all reasons create a problem for your relationships. Wearing a mask means that the REAL you is not in the relationships. A fake or fantasy you is relating to others, so a real relationship is not possible. It takes a lot of energy to keep up with who you want to be! Worse yet, the thing you want - acceptance for who you are - can never be achieved while wearing your mask.