There are four must have relationship tools that help relationships be great; feelings, freedom, forgiveness, and confession. You know the PROBLEM - making everything about ME, and the SOLUTION - pursuing the best for others; patiently, kindly, sacrificially, and unconditionally. Now, these four tools will help you reduce the problem and implement the solution. 

You can remember the four tools with 3 Fs and a C (FFFC) or TFFC, which means Thinking, Freedom, Forgiveness, and Confession.