Significance Is Essential for Men

Man's judgment is so powerful because significance is essential for men. His testosterone-based design drives him to be significant, especially in his relationship with a woman. He tries to get his significance, primarily through his work and activities. If you combine his judgment with her judgment, desiring the safety of fulfilling relationships, it is no wonder marriages and relationships fail.

Judgments Are Real, So Is the Bible

Each time I teach the judgments, it reminds me of how real the Bible is. Viewing what God tells you through the window of relationships makes His Word even more practical and understandable. The judgments are particularly helpful in counseling because the effects are easy to see. However, judgments are not taught in a way that helps people see them in relationships and marriages. Unfortunately, they are too often unknown or ignored.

Genesis 3:16-19 will impact every man and woman on the face of the earth until Christ comes again. Every relationship struggle has a link back to these judgments. It has proven true in most (probably ALL) of the discussions that Louie and I have had with couples struggling in their relationship.

Unfortunately, like so much of God’s Word, people do not consider it relevant for today or just no longer in effect. You may refer to Genesis as that “creation story part of the Bible”, but the designs and judgments are real. These judgments impact your life now unless you are walking with the Lord and doing what He asks REAL men and women to do.

The Man’s Judgment

Then to Adam He said, “Because you have heeded the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree of which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat of it’: Cursed is the ground for your sake in toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life. Both thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you, and you shall eat the herb of the field. In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread till you return to the ground, for out of it you were taken; for dust you are, and to dust you shall return.”  – Genesis 3:17-19

Men are different than women, but the principles of the path of least resistance work the same. Man’s structure also starts with THERE or the desired end result, which is a “Godly, masculine, REAL man, using 100% of my strengths, talents, and instincts as God designed me.” The judgment attacks a man's significance, and significance is essential for all men.

But his HERE or current reality is different. As with the woman’s design structure, current reality creates pressure to conform to the culture or the world – to be selfish, discontent, unsatisfied, comparing yourself to others, and just “flashing his ME”.

Work and Activities Are the Issue

Additionally, most of the man’s HERE is about work and activities. Since significance is essential for men, while some things are going well, others are unfulfilling, falling apart, and testing their view of their significance. That is part of the judgment or curse for men. Finally, he is aware of God’s design, or he is not, which is a critical point.

When men focus on being a “Godly, masculine, REAL man, using 100% of my strengths, talents and instincts as God designed me,” then the PATH of actions shows up The actions that lead them to their THERE are the way God designed men – tend and care, provide, protect, preserve, and lead with love and be powerful.

The problem for both men and women is acting without the power of the Holy Spirit. Your ability to be a Godly man or woman depends entirely on God’s power through you. These structures only represent your life for short periods if you do not rely on the power of the life of Christ in you. God wants your complete surrender to Him because it is best for you.