REAL men aren't "Flashing their ME." They selflessly display the image of God (Powerful and Relational). So, real men are WIMPS. The traits of a REAL man demonstrate that in spite of his powerful design (testosterone), he is asked to be relational also. Both can only be done through the power of the Holy Spirit, living the life of Christ that we have been given.

“Flashing ME” Prevents REAL Men

Because of the sin nature, the PROBLEM, and judgment for man, Christian men focus on the wrong things.

• His work and money become more important than leading and developing his wife and family.
• He falls into patterns of ruling (use and abuse) instead of loving and cherishing his wife.
• He seeks pleasure for himself instead of discipling and teaching others.
• He accumulates things instead of accumulating character and spiritual rewards.
• He lusts after other women instead of finding contentment and sexual exhilaration with his wife.

So, where is your focus? Does everything revolve around and serve “ME” instead of serving others? If so, that is the sin nature in full blossom. The more you choose according to the flesh, you are plugged into this world, which is ruled by Satan. If you maintain that focus, you can expect to cripple and hurt your relationships, especially those with your wife and children.

Thankfully, God has an answer.

REAL Men Demonstrate Godliness

Remember the Path of Least Resistance? Do you remember the importance of these statements “Where you look, you tend to go” and “Structure demands behavior”? If you are NOT a REAL man, you will look at or focus on anything that serves your “flashing ME,” not “Glorifying God.”

Focus is essential. Your focus dictates whether you live in the PROBLEM and your Judgment or in the SOLUTION and your Design. Where you look demands the kind of man you will be – structure demands behavior.

REAL men focus and depend on God. That removes cultural confusion, distorted definitions, and the power of the PROBLEM and Judgment structures.

Ultimately, REAL men focus on becoming “W.I.M.P.S.” They pursue being men who

God wants men who daily “Walk In Mercy and Power Selflessly.” The building blocks for WIMPS are found in Titus 2.

Before you get more details about WIMPS, notice something that the Lord tells you in verse 1.

…speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine:  – Titus 2:1

What comes to your mind when you think about “sound doctrine”?

For me, I think of theological terms or the deeper issues of Christianity. In fact, most people associate it with something that is taught.

But consider what Paul says about doctrine. It is something that protects the reputation of God’s Word.

…that the word of God may not be blasphemed. – Titus 2:5

…in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility… – Titus 2:7

God tells REAL Men something extremely important; sound doctrine is about how you live! The truism “actions denote character” is what God is telling you. REAL Men and REAL Women do not just know what the Lord asks them to do; they DO IT! Actions will eventually show who you really are on the inside – what you know becomes what you show.

Everything Paul talks about here is not specifically about knowledge, but it is about teaching God’s word with the end result being men and women that choose to live their lives according to what God asks.

It is not improper to state REAL Men = Sound Doctrine and REAL Women = Sound Doctrine.

Now you have the background to understand that REAL Men are WIMPS. Paul tells Titus –

But as for you [Titus], speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you. – Titus 2:1-2, 6-8 (underline added)

When he talks about older men, it is uncertain whether Paul was thinking of a specific age. Is “older” over 40? 50? We are all “older” than someone. Anyway, Paul gives a list of qualities for these both older and younger men

In speaking of young men, we do know Titus is included here.

You can also see these qualities through the lens of God’s image – some are more merciful or relational, while some are more powerful. The more merciful qualities (sound in love, sound in patience, easy to respect) are all for the Older men. But the more powerful qualities are assigned to both. Three to the young, two to the older, and one to both. This is an outstanding reminder that God asks a man to be merciful and powerful, even though his design emphasizes power.