Is your sin nature winning and getting you to live in your judgment instead of your design? The judgments fuel a life that is all about ME. Do you remember, "Where you look, you tend to go?" If your sin nature is winning, you are looking at the wrong thing, yourself, not Jesus, and the abundant life that God has given you.
Women
You were born with a design that is fulfilled primarily through relationships. The Judgment focuses your attention on having fulfilling relationships at the earthly level without a focus on the primary relationship with God. It further encourages independence rather than dependence.
Is your sin nature winning, or are you walking in the Spirit, which enables you to live in your design? Your design aligns more with God's desires; letting the Holy Spirit live through you is the only way to fulfill that design. However, the judgment gets you to believe and act differently.
Remember the woman’s judgment (Genesis 3:16)? You focus on getting your husband and children to relate to you to meet your relational needs. While not specifically stated in the woman’s judgment, I speculate that this also applies to all of a woman’s relationships, married or not. Trying to get those relationships to meet your needs instead of God doing that means you are living in your judgment.
Men
Is your sin nature winning? Your judgment is similar in that it gets you to focus on yourself, but quite different in the actions and how you want to be fulfilled, or the struggles you will have. You were born with a design to be fulfilled and be significant through your work and activities.
With the judgment, your work can be fulfilling, but the fulfillment is fleeting and exacts a toll from you because it is no longer pain-free or toil-free. You will work hard to attain some semblance of significance, which is also fleeting. And you want your wife to see you as significant, especially in her respect for you. You want your wife to see you as significant, and the temptation will be to seek your own glory through work. What is the intent of your heart – glorify God or yourself? You can ask yourself whether you want to glorify God or yourself.