Seeking Acceptance – Is That Good for You?
A big obstacle to living in freedom is seeking the acceptance of others. An improper view or belief about acceptance can hinder your freedom. Where are you seeking acceptance and praise? Who do you hope will accept you? Who are you trying to please?
When you search for love and acceptance, you will end up in some strange places. And, you may violate some of your great values.
...to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved – Ephesians 1:6
Maybe you remember a phrase that we often use, “Where you look, you tend to go.” Where you look creates a path of least resistance to what you want. So, be careful!
When you are seeking acceptance from or trying to please someone, that person takes over control of at least a part of your life – probably more than you realize. And, this is another subtle way your ME flashes. You want their attention, because you think it will satisfy you somehow.
It's Totally Their Choice
When you want to be accepted by others, you may erroneously think you can make it happen – but you can’t. It is totally the other person’s choice; they do it according to their standards, probably multiple standards which can be very subjective.
Unfortunately, even if they tell you the standards and you meet them, they still may not accept you. And, ultimately, the standards do not matter, because they either want to accept you or they don’t.
As long as you play the game, you will continue to be controlled; their puppet. You can’t make them accept you, it is not something you control!
Compromise Your Values and Beliefs
If your desire to be accepted is elevated, you may compromise your values and beliefs, which is a clear sign of being controlled or a loss of freedom. That’s one reason gangs work and good people do bad things.
God is different. Meet His standard and you become part of His family – totally accepted. The standard is the same for all – faith alone in Christ alone. Faith in Christ’s death, burial and resurrection from the dead to pay for your sins allows you to be adopted into God’s family. That is the only criteria for acceptance and it will not change.
The most amazing difference between seeking acceptance from God versus man is how freedom works. With man, you rarely have freedom, because the acceptance continues to be conditional, subject to whims and variable standards.
With God, you become a member of God's family by receiving a gift or trusting Christ. You might see that as a condition, but it is actually grace. For sure, once in God's family, God accepts you, nothing will reverse it!
For the gifts and the calling of God are irrevocable – Romans 11:29
It makes so much more sense to seek the acceptance of God, because it provides freedom. Seeking man’s acceptance is a barrier to freedom.
When you understand that being part of God's family is eternal acceptance, then you can start focusing your energy on obtaining the inheritance God has set aside for you. Because there IS a difference between the GIFT and the PRIZE!
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